The handover
The handover
The other day we went shopping when a young man looked at my Molly.. I mean some day this was obviously going to happen she’s 17 now. It was then I thought jeeeze this is
going to be a hard one. I wasn’t expecting to have to think about this right now but I think I’m going to have to hold interviews…
May be ill write this letter first, this can be the first stage of clearance before the entrance exam.
To my perspective son-in-law.
Hey, i hope you are well.
We haven’t met yet but I just want to tell you how lucky you are and I need to let you in on few things.
I hear you have affections for my girl and I have to say I can’t blame you.
My Molly though isn’t your normal run of the mill kind of girl, which is a good bonus in lots of ways. Her uniqueness is outstanding in all ways; you probably know this by now as i expect you have been dating for a while
.She’s very black and white in her thoughts i expect you agree. She has No grey areas.That’s probably what attracted you to her. Good is good and bad is bad. There is no in the middle.
Her heart is made of pure gold although as a baby it was a little bit broken in places. Probably the reason it’s evolved in to something so special.
I just need to tell you that she has not got that hard, brush off exterior, which most people do. She doesn’t understand nastiness, name calling, hurtful sarcasm or arguments. She simply does not get it. So Please don’t ever upset her, just go somewhere else and deal with it without her.
She was just born this way she has sensitive feelings, seriously I have tried to toughen her up. But it will never work so you must just simply love her.
I’ll guarantee this now, from 17 years of experience she will never do anything to upset, offend or hurt you. It is simply not in her.
This is my lifetime guarantee by the way; you may get a refund if i am wrong.
Moll will never fake being tired or poorly so please do not ever become frustrated with this. She has no clue how to lie or seek attention, or no want to do so, in fact at every well opportunity she will be raring to go.
She will make you laugh a lot, but you will have to reassure her that you love her a lot too because sometimes she feels a little insecure. I find plenty of cuddles on down days and lots of your time and chocolate is better than anything.
Do things, bring the world to her and take her to see the world. You must always make sure she is warm though. In the winter you will need extra blankets and the heating will be on constantly.
If she’s warm she will stay relatively well. Unless she catches a cold, try not to let her catch a cold.
Find things to do at home if Molls can’t make it out. I mean I’m working on this whole being well again thing right now! So I’m hoping that by the time she meets you she will be put back together and as fit as a fiddle.
She will still need protective arms though so if yours aren’t strong enough Moll is not your girl.
I don’t want to seem fussy here or to put you off but seriously I’ve kept this amazing girl alive for 17 years so you have big footsteps to follow. Not many people will be up to the job.
You will need to learn physiotherapy and how to use her emergency medication. You need to be in tune with her illnesses which I suppose if you are reading this you are
I will never put as much trust in ANYONE as I am putting in you. Moll needs you to be her advocate you need to fight her corner if she ever ends up in the hospital. You need to be strong for her and know exactly what she needs, medically and emotionally. And if you can do all this and you love my Molly as much as I do, I will happily give her to you to cherish.
The girl is hilarious, loving, and beautiful she will love you as you should be loved. She is a very special person who needs a little bit more care than your average gal.
I am in no doubt at all that she is lucky to have you. And if you are not fazed by all this you are lucky to have her. She has defied all odds by making it through to this stage but she has done it! And is here to stay, so remember that when erm you feel a little tired sometimes! She is tough in all the right places. And that is what is important.
I’m always here by the way, 24 hours a day if you need me. I will always be here.
I will cry for the entire day on your wedding day and probably for weeks after. But that is not because I am sad, it’s because I am so happy that my beautiful daughter has found someone to love and care for her as much as I do. And i am so thankful to you for making her happy. I am truly grateful she is finally having the life which I am working towards getting her right now. My trust is in you to carry on where I’ve left off. Love her and have the best life together ever.
May be ill write this letter first, this can be the first stage of clearance before the entrance exam.
To my perspective son-in-law.
Hey, i hope you are well.
We haven’t met yet but I just want to tell you how lucky you are and I need to let you in on few things.
I hear you have affections for my girl and I have to say I can’t blame you.
My Molly though isn’t your normal run of the mill kind of girl, which is a good bonus in lots of ways. Her uniqueness is outstanding in all ways; you probably know this by now as i expect you have been dating for a while
.She’s very black and white in her thoughts i expect you agree. She has No grey areas.That’s probably what attracted you to her. Good is good and bad is bad. There is no in the middle.
Her heart is made of pure gold although as a baby it was a little bit broken in places. Probably the reason it’s evolved in to something so special.
I just need to tell you that she has not got that hard, brush off exterior, which most people do. She doesn’t understand nastiness, name calling, hurtful sarcasm or arguments. She simply does not get it. So Please don’t ever upset her, just go somewhere else and deal with it without her.
She was just born this way she has sensitive feelings, seriously I have tried to toughen her up. But it will never work so you must just simply love her.
I’ll guarantee this now, from 17 years of experience she will never do anything to upset, offend or hurt you. It is simply not in her.
This is my lifetime guarantee by the way; you may get a refund if i am wrong.
Moll will never fake being tired or poorly so please do not ever become frustrated with this. She has no clue how to lie or seek attention, or no want to do so, in fact at every well opportunity she will be raring to go.
She will make you laugh a lot, but you will have to reassure her that you love her a lot too because sometimes she feels a little insecure. I find plenty of cuddles on down days and lots of your time and chocolate is better than anything.
Do things, bring the world to her and take her to see the world. You must always make sure she is warm though. In the winter you will need extra blankets and the heating will be on constantly.
If she’s warm she will stay relatively well. Unless she catches a cold, try not to let her catch a cold.
Find things to do at home if Molls can’t make it out. I mean I’m working on this whole being well again thing right now! So I’m hoping that by the time she meets you she will be put back together and as fit as a fiddle.
She will still need protective arms though so if yours aren’t strong enough Moll is not your girl.
I don’t want to seem fussy here or to put you off but seriously I’ve kept this amazing girl alive for 17 years so you have big footsteps to follow. Not many people will be up to the job.
You will need to learn physiotherapy and how to use her emergency medication. You need to be in tune with her illnesses which I suppose if you are reading this you are
I will never put as much trust in ANYONE as I am putting in you. Moll needs you to be her advocate you need to fight her corner if she ever ends up in the hospital. You need to be strong for her and know exactly what she needs, medically and emotionally. And if you can do all this and you love my Molly as much as I do, I will happily give her to you to cherish.
The girl is hilarious, loving, and beautiful she will love you as you should be loved. She is a very special person who needs a little bit more care than your average gal.
I am in no doubt at all that she is lucky to have you. And if you are not fazed by all this you are lucky to have her. She has defied all odds by making it through to this stage but she has done it! And is here to stay, so remember that when erm you feel a little tired sometimes! She is tough in all the right places. And that is what is important.
I’m always here by the way, 24 hours a day if you need me. I will always be here.
I will cry for the entire day on your wedding day and probably for weeks after. But that is not because I am sad, it’s because I am so happy that my beautiful daughter has found someone to love and care for her as much as I do. And i am so thankful to you for making her happy. I am truly grateful she is finally having the life which I am working towards getting her right now. My trust is in you to carry on where I’ve left off. Love her and have the best life together ever.
Yours sincerely
And with much love and happiness
Molly’s mum Your new mothering law to be, Cooker
of Christmas dinners and friend.
http://themighty.com/2016/06/chronic-illness-a-letter-to-my-future-son-in-law/
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I have just clicked over to this from your email my darling angel. You are doing so much good and Molly is not doubt loving it!
Thank you I had exactly the same situation in 2013. I started an awareness page on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/rachelpeglersavinglivesforsterioddependants/ I didn't want a memorial page.
I am so so sorry for your loss. I can not even begin to imagine how you are feeling. Thank you for sharing my petition for change, same vile disease as your lovely daughter xxxx
Good luck with all you do for your dearest daughter. xx